Abstract: Different dimensions of how we exist in our bodies, and how our bodies are perceived by ourselves and by others, are all in play when we engage sexually with someone. These different dimensions affect us, even if we choose to ignore them. This presentation will work through some of the dimensions that are salient when we get together in sexual ways. We will then turn to the historical figure of Lou Sullivan, reading selections from some of his diaries in the 1970's, where he describes certain sexual experiences and how they affected him. Sullivan's reflections will give us an opportunity to dialogue with one another (and with him indirectly), about how the many aspects of our gendered embodiment arise for us. Our conversation--and the presentation--will traverse theories and methods employed in phenomenology, transgender studies, queer theory, and psychology.